How Motherhood Sanctifies You

by - June 27, 2019

Motherhood is beautiful. One of the most amazing things a woman can experience this side of heaven.

Let me remind you, whether you are a mother or are a young lady soon to enter that season in the future, that God created motherhood and therefore it is a GOOD thing. It is a beautiful thing. It is a blessing, a gift, a duty, and form of obedience to God's will for your life - whether it is with natural birth, or the incredible gift of adoption.

But like marriage, motherhood is ultimately NOT about the following:
- Our own happiness
- a social accomplishment
- something to idolize above God

Instead, God created motherhood for this primary spiritual reason: to sanctify us.

Why Sanctification is our Primary Personal Pursuit as Christians

What is Sanctification? Never heard of it? Go to this post completely dedicated to explaining sanctification - but in a nutshell is it the process of becoming more holy, or set apart to obey God's will.

"Those who cleanse themselves from the latter [wickedness] will be instruments for special purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do any good work." - 2 Timothy 2:21 (clarified context added)

The Bible is clear about the evidence we should see in our lives, as true believers, as we grow in the faith, conforming to the image of Christ (Romans 8:29). It is usually summarized by the Fruit of the Spirit, and more clearly demonstrated by the works and life of Christ and the apostles.

We all have heard mothers, including ourselves, who have described motherhood to have caused our hearts to grow in love in ways we could never imagine. But the Holy Spirit takes us further...

8 Ways Motherhood Makes Us More HOLY

Motherhood helps us, as woman of God, to grow in our faith, conform more to the image of Christ, and ultimately sanctify us by changing our hearts! Here is how God uses motherhood to give us hearts that are more...


"Childbirth is the common day miracle." This is a quote from Call the Midwife series, and it has always stuck with me. There is a reason it is called 'the miracle of LIFE'!

How two cells come together, form a baby, and that baby comes into the world, ever so perfect - it is nothing short of a miracle. The love that grows and then explodes as you hold this child in your arms, it is unlike anything else you could ever experience.

Motherhood opens our eyes to a deeper understanding of God's love for us that becomes almost impossible to explain, and it makes one so grateful for this love. Grateful to be used as an instrument to bring life, grateful that God treats his believers with the love and tenderness that you now have for your own child.

"In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." - 1 Thessalonians 5:18


Even before that bundle of joy comes into the world, women are already sacrificing their needs and desires for the sake of their child. Abstaining from certain drinks and food, gaining weight, losing sleep, and all the pain and suffering of childbirth. Then the real hard work begins!

Motherhood forces us to become selfless. It wasn't until I had a child, and in those early months that I had to look into the figurative mirror and recognize the selfish and self-centered desires still very much rampant in my heart. It is through God's grace that we have our hearts adopt a more serving attitude that takes joy in serving our children, as Jesus served others.


Let's face it. Motherhood is not glamorous. Unless you are ultra rich and can afford the high-end luxuries, nannies and perfectly styled photoshoots that are nothing more than a curated snapshot of an unrealistic moment.

There are poop explosions, healing body parts, spit-up, haggard eyes, brain fog, non-stop crying, etc. But it is with humility that we deal with all of these, and hopefully without too much grumbling (because remember, we should also be growing in gratitude!). And yet, we will not do it perfectly, lest we become proud parents that show off how much we've "got it together"!

Verses on humility: Proverbs 11:2, Psalm 25:9, Philippians 2:3-4


There is nothing more physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually exhausting as having a baby who needs you constantly for, really, their entire growing up and beyond.

Remember the words of Jesus when he said we should be like little children? Or to have child-like faith? Well having a child can really flesh out what this means. Children are heavily dependent on their mother, for milk, changing, bathing, feeding, care, nurture, love, encouragement, teaching and EVERYTHING!

In the same way, we should approach GOD! For every single need we have in this life, Jesus tells us to pray for.


It takes maturity to recognize how much we require wisdom and help from God to help us navigate parenthood. Because no matter how many children we have, how much we study childhood psychology, or if we baby sat a thousand kids - each child is UNIQUE! Therefore, there is no clear cut theory or formula. So we get on our knees and pray for what we lack, and we read the Word for God's instruction before we try to use our own knowledge and strength to solve things.

"Therefore let us leave the elementary doctrine of Christ and go on to maturity" - Hebrews 6:1 (ESV)


Tying back a bit to point number 1 - when we have a heart of gratitude it then becomes a heart of praise. When we recognize the miracle of birth, the blessing of a child, the love God has for us, and knowing He is there through it all to support us, sustain us, encourage and strengthen us; we can't help but praise God for everything that is Motherhood! And God always, always deserves the glory, because we know we could never do it on our own.

Some of my favourite examples of women praising god are the prayers of Hannah and Mary.


We already talked about how our children are real-life examples of how we are dependent on God for our needs, but then we must go beyond internalizing this. We then turn and seek God in those dark and hard moments of motherhood.

When the doubt creeps in, when we're utterly exhausted in every capacity, when illness strikes our child, when depression sets in, and it seems like we are losing hope - we turn to God.

Motherhood will drive us to seek shelter in the cross of Christ, and into the arms of the Most High. The same way our child will run into our arms when they are scared and grip us tight when they are anxious, so is God ready to be there for us so that we don't have to be afraid or worried. Because our God is greater and mightier and we are continually learning, more deeply, how much He loves us. And we put our trust in Him.

"And those who know Your name will put their trust in You; For You, Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You." - Psalm 9:10


Ultimately, we recognize the perfect design and purpose of motherhood as God created it. And as we grow in love with this role, our hearts let go of any worldly aspirations that could possibly get in the way. This is an act of surrender and obedience, which is pleasing to God. Just like when our child listens to us (especially when not threatened, reminded or supervised), it brings us mothers such a joy - imagine how much joy it gives God to see us walking in harmony with his perfect will.

"Scarcely can the godly mother quit her home for a place of worship; but dream not that she is lost to the work of the church; far from it, she is doing the best possible service for her Lord. Mothers, the godly training of your offspring is your first and most pressing duty." - Charles Spurgeon

Motherhood is Your Greatest Ministry

So let this be an encouragement to all mothers, and all mothers-to-be. There is an incredible purpose to your role as a mother that contributes to your testimony to the Lord. So don't ever for one second believe that motherhood is somehow a lesser ministry.

A godly mother , as famous theologian and pastor Spurgeon describes, is a main vessel through which God can extend salvation to her children. She is called "blessed", and her children and husband sing her praises. (Proverbs 31:28)

As you allow God to use motherhood to shape and mold you more into the image of Christ, your children are watching from the front row what faith truly looks like. And it is through our godly example that we live out the gospel truth to our children. And what could possibly be more important than reach the souls God has entrusted in your care in this life? No earthly pursuit, that's for sure!

How have you been changed since you became a mother? How has God worked in you? What lessons were the hardest or most valuable to you? Let me know in the comments below, dear sisters!

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