14 Ways to Love Your Husband - Two Week Challenge

by - January 30, 2019

Love is not just a feeling, but an action, that we do daily to grow and persevere in our relationships. But showing love every day or in new ways, can get harder to do as time goes on simply due to the natural busy-ness of life and the world's strong pull to distract us from what is truly important.

So this year, instead of just celebrating love on Valentine's day, why not use the first FOURTEEN days of February to show the hubs some love? 

Men need to be romanced too! So if you want to join in the romance, below will be listed 14 different ways to show your love to your husband, one for each day. I highly recommend you also join me on Instagram, where I will remind you each day in my stories of what the particular love task is that day.

If you're interested in staying accountable and sharing your ideas and experience, follow along with the rest of us wives doing the challenge!

14 Ways to Love the Hubs - Valentine Two Week Challenge

Day 1 - Bringing the Bacon 

"I love how you get up early to go to work to provide for our family..."

Today's love task is to tell your husband how much you appreciate his hard work and how he provides for your family. Find an element in particular to encourage him, especially if he's currently at a job that is very demanding, draining or maybe not what he envisioned. If he's studying to further his employment opportunities, then praise him for how hard he's hitting the books.

Remind him how his work is pleasing to God too!

"May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us— yes, establish the work of our hands." -Psalm 90:17 

Day 2 - Fatherhood

"I love how you play with our kids, you come up with the funnest games..."

Being a father is such an important role, and there are so many forces trying to bring fathers down. Uplift your husband by reminding him what he does that makes him a good father. If you don't have children yet, tell him what quality he has that you know will make him a good father for your future kids.

Remind him that you thank God for giving you a partner not just in marriage but someone who will venture through parenthood with you. 

Day 3 - Opposites Attract

"I love how you're better at managing finances than I..."

In what ways is your husband a complement to you? No marriage has two people who are completely equal in strengths and weaknesses, in fact they tend to work best when each partner supports one another in the areas they are strong while the other is not. My husband loves deep cleaning, but my strength is in organization. He loves white meat, I love dark meat. 

Today remind him how he 'completes' you as a couple by having a strength that you don't have. Every man loves feeling like a hero!

Day 4 - Quirky

Everyone has a quirk. Something that they may not share with everyone, like my husband, who has some quirks I alone know of. What quirk does your husband have that you find endearing, funny or downright adorable? Tell him that, it's important to feel accepted for who we are, especially in a safe space like marriage.

"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." 1 John 4:18

Day 5 - Memory Lane

"Remember that day my car broke down in the rain and you rescued me?..."

Find a photo album, a scrapbook, or pull out the iPad and share some memories together. Try to go back further in time to moments that might have been forgotten. Try to highlight the moments you fell in love, yet again, with your husband, or simply a very fond memory that highlights his wonderful character.

Day 6 - Talent Show

As wives, we are our husband's primary cheerleader, or at least we should be! What is a talent your husband has that maybe hasn't gotten a lot of attention lately? Maybe it's a hobby he hasn't been able to do in a while, like playing guitar or working on a car. Encourage him to keep it up!

“Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned." -Song of Solomon 8:7

Day 7 - Small Favour

We're at the halfway point. So far we've only done "words of affirmation", mainly because men truly thrive off praise. Today's love task is the first one that is communicated primarily through an action. Ask your husband what small action you could do for them today that is a bit out of the regular. Maybe a shoulder massage, playing a game, watching a movie of their choice, or giving them the evening to pamper themselves. 

Day 8 - Man's Feast

"The quickest way to a man's heart, is through his stomach!"

Treat your husband to a surprise dinner at his favourite food joint. If you want to choose a restaurant, be sure to make reservations and childcare arrangements if you feel it should be an evening just for you two. OR make your husband's favourite home-cooked meal OR order in. Whatever suits your budget, family and husband's taste, so long as he gets food he truly enjoys!

Day 9 - Hobby

What is a hobby your husband really enjoys? Do one of them with him. Whether it's watching a sports game, going fishing, or hitting up a tool store. Whatever is the manliest hobby he has that you've never or rarely participated in, the more you're showing him you love him!

Day 10 - Prayer

Something my mother started doing when I was a young adult off to University and my brother was a teenager off to high-school, she would pray over us before we left the home. It definitely shows love and care, and what a perfect way to set your husband off to a good start of the day by a quick prayer over him? Maybe it could become a daily thing!

"For this reason also, since the day we heard of it, we have not ceased to pray for you and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you will walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, to please Him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God" - Colossians 1:9-10

Day 11 - Coffee Date

MAKE time for a coffee date, even if it means you just go through the drive though. Pick a Starbucks a little further away so you can have more time to chat and catch up on the drive to and from.

Preferably, go to your favourite coffee shop and spend a good hour there and be aware of your husband's mood and needs. If he needs to vent have a ready ear. Maybe prepare a topic of conversation that perks his interest! Romance isn't always spontaneous, sometimes it's good to have a plan. Main rule: stay off the cellphones!

Day 12 - Dreams & Goals

Do you keep track of the goals you have? What are some of your family dreams? As the leader in the home, be sure to ask your husband for his input, his visions and ideas for your future as a couple and family. Let him lead and assure you are there to support him. Make a dream board, or get a journal where you can write them down, sort of like resolutions!

Day 13 - Role Reversal

What are the chores your husband usually does? Do one of these for him today as a special treat. Whether it's taking out the garbage, doing the dishes, or checking on the kid's homework. Show him that you recognize him as a husband and not someone who has a to-do list to accomplish to feel worthy of love.

Day 14 - Your Vows

Get your husband alone, whether at the park, in your room, or at the restaurant you've already planned to go to for Valentine's Day. Bring a copy of each other's vows and read your vows to him. Then, talk. Or don't talk. Hug. Kiss. Cry. Whatever naturally happens after you've re-read your vows, just go with the flow and be in the moment. Take this moment to celebrate your relationship, the trials you've overcome, the joy that has been added, and all that God still has planned for you.

“With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." - Ephesians 4: 2-3

I don't know about you, but this will certainly be a challenge, to put in the time and effort to do all of these everyday, but I'm very excited to do it! Will you be joining me in loving on our husband's for 14 days? And forever after? Let me know below or join in on Instagram where I will be reminding you each day what the challenge of the day is, and give some more insight and romantic tips! Follow the hashtag #lovelywives14 to stay connected!

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