Embracing Our Female Biblical Roles

by - October 26, 2018

Every day, society tells us what they think the role of women is, through movies, songs, pop culture, magazines, universities and talk shows. It is barrage of erroneous messages and standards.

Women are expected to be highly educated, alluring, feisty, independent, loud and even aggressive in order to make herself heard in her battle against the patriarchy.

The idea of being a homemaker, a stay at home mom, gentle and quiet, or to get married young is often ridiculed or seen as offensive to the modern woman. Yet these are some of the main things the Bible encourages. 

The fact is, in growing popularity, the traditional and biblical role of women as wives and mothers is seen as lesser. And it is hurting, confusing and stressing young Christian women. Because on one hand we are continually bombarded night and day with what the spirit of the world says and in complete opposition is the truth of God.

So what is a Christian woman to do? Turn to the Word.

Basic Reminders

So, before we get into specifics, let's remember the basic things we should remember about ourselves.

  1. We are loved by a holy God who wishes to redeem us.
  2. We are saved by the sacrifice and resurrection of Jesus Christ.
  3. When we repent and turn to Jesus as Lord, we receive a new spirit and a new nature.
  4. Our ultimate purpose is to glorify and serve God with all our heart, mind and strength.
  5. God created Woman with a purpose and design.
I think it is SO important to remember these basic truths which truly define us to help battle against the lies that come at us every day.

As Christians, we know God defines everything because He created everything! And here is what the Bible has to say about our role as women.

Role of Women


1. A Helper - In the original Aramaic the word God uses to call his creation was 'helper'. But not a helper who just follows around like an unpaid intern or servant. It is the SAME word used to describe GOD when he is referred to as Israel's helper. (Genesis 2 :18-24) This CAN include with providing for the family or help running a business as we see in the famous Proverbs 31 wife.

2. A Picture of the Gospel- The way man and woman complement each other is to reveal a larger picture of God's image, or character. Men show certain characteristics of God, and women show others, which is why mankind is known as the image bearers of God.

3. Miracle-of-Life Worker - "You knitted me in my mother's womb". We as women have been equipped to carry out the common day miracle of life!

*And here is a note to any woman who has had a miscarriage: You may not have been able to carry your child through to birth, but God used YOUR womb to create a person with an eternal soul, and that person could not have existed without YOU.

4. A Primary Influencer - Did you know there's a much more important kind of influencer than the kinds you see on Instagram? It goes without saying that the role a father in the lives of their children is foundation. That being said, the mother, the woman of the house, influence their children more in the day-to-day life. (Proverbs 1:8-9, 6:20-22)

5. A Cultural Glue - The woman typically carry out and pass on family and cultural traditions in the home. And like the Proverbs 31 wife, we get involved or support our husbands in the world of business, finance, government, etc. We help all of these cultural areas stick together.

6. A Home Manager -Who says you have to own a business to be Boss-Lady? Running a house-hold smoothly is one of the pride and joys of being a wife and mother. I truly believe this is why God designed the female mind to be so good as juggling multiple categories and multitasking. We are basically the secretaries; the personal assistants, if you will. We keep track of time tables, events, stock, supplies, etc. (Again...Proverbs 31 really drives this home)

7. A Gospel Preserver - Whether it's reading bible stories with your children, challenging them to memorize verses, or praying with them, we are the primary teachers of our children. This is part of the Great Commission. Our children need to hear the gospel and become disciples of Jesus just as much as anyone else we know.

8. A Nurturer - Women have the ability to nurture in a way men don't come to as naturally or easily. Not only with children, but with those who are needy and vulnerable in general. In fact, many statistics show that women are much more likely to volunteer for charity than men.

9. Internally Beautiful - outward beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but a woman's true beauty comes from within. A noble character, a pure heart, a gentle and quiet spirit is the kind of beauty that never fades. (1 Peter 3:1-6) (Proverbs 31:30)

10. Of A Quiet Spirit - Women were designed to be soft and gentle (1 Peter 3:4), not just physically but in our manner as well. A loud-mouth who loves to draw attention to herself and always has to argue, cause drama or have the last say is worse than living in the desert! (Proverbs 21:19) 

Freedom in the Truth

Any time I came across a passage in the Bible that talked about women submitting, or being of a quite and soft character, I would skip over it in a huff.

Then one day I read a Christian blogger say "If you come across something in the Bible that upsets you, that is the area you have to work on." And it hit me. I was fighting against the role of women as God intended. I was holding on to the more fiery, out-spoken and independent idea of woman I had grown to love.

I happen to be in a season of life where I recognized a lot of my internal and external issues had a lot do to with my role as a wife and a mom.

When I gave birth, I felt like I lost my identity and found a new one all at once. I knew that bearing children and becoming a mother was something God designed. I knew inside of me that I always looked forward to motherhood, and yet I felt like I was letting go of the things that made me ME. My goals, my accomplishments, my freedom

A brand new baby also brought a new dynamic into our marriage which started revealing all kinds of problems and struggles that brought tension and anxiety. I felt lost.
But when I read that blogger's quote, I realize that by running away from what God had declared my role should be, I was only making myself more frustrated, more confused, torn, hurt and feeling lost.

I knew I had to radically change my perspective of what a woman is supposed to be. In earnest, I asked, begged, God to change my heart and mind so that I could be the wife and mother He called me to be. And through the workings of the Holy Spirit, and almost to my amazement, I have had a  change in perspective.

Knowing what an incredible, amazing and beautiful blessing it is to be a woman that God designed. Knowing how critical, how important my role is as a wife and mother, and how to do it the right way, gives me a strength I did not have before.

Does this mean I'm becoming a permanent stay at home mom to a dozen children? Of course not. But now, when I do think about returning to work, or how many children to have, or how to make decisions with my husband, I won't be doing it from a place of pride, confusion, frustration or anxiety. Instead, I can approach these things with humility, clarity, joy and peace.

HEAR MORE: As if by providence, Lauren over at She Proves Faithful, recently released a podcast about Femininity and Masculinity: the roles of men and women. Take a listen for further insight! She is lovely!

I hope you are encouraged and challenged in some way today. Please share your thoughts, comments, questions or concerns down below. I would love to hear your responses!

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